Children Made Couple

We have mouth with teeth to chew and eat; at the same time we got stomach to digest it. We have not asked GOD why I should eat, why it should get digested and again why I need to eat, instead of all this can’t I live without eating?

We have never asked GOD about natural feelings like hungry, thirsty, sex and why HE provided food, water and opposite gender to get rid of these feelings.

Do I consider this process of getting children is GOD’s wish to make his creation exist forever or its result of people excessive urge to have sex or it is part of human emotions to have a child?

I hope few things cannot be asked as it cannot be answered, one among such questions is why GOD has created Earth and created creatures called as humans to play on this earth? What is HIS idea in giving emotions to humans and making them to play within those emotions? I don't want to question too much on this as HE might have HIS Philosophy which may or may not be understandable or acceptable by me. I believe that for all the bad that happens I am only reason and for all good that happens it is collaboration of people around me and GOD the only powerful controller of us. I think by birth I have all the ingredients which I need to overcome to become good person and God, my family, teachers, friends and all the people around me played key role to turn up to what I am today. But 1 thing I believe is though game is played by us and monitored by HIM, HE has all the rights to judge us and intervene in that game at any time.

I don't know in what context sir.RGV has said “By birth I am aged and I am trying to grow towards childhood”, but I believe it is correct to go to childhood state in the context where we can be as straight forward (while questioning), as clear (in knowing what we want), as excited (in knowing new things), as stubborn (in getting what we want) as the children. When I am trying to know what could be the reason in having children, I started praising children; I hope it would be better to dig the reason instead of just praising children J

We don't know what GOD wishes could be and though humans urge to have sex can lead to pregnancy, there is also science to stop pregnancy. So, I like to fix to the point that human emotions could be the reason to have children. Let’s dig the reason behind having children on the lines of human emotions.

First, I want to know what makes couple go mad to have children.

For this I got a doubt, how the concept of couple came into existence? Then I started thinking, to get children is that required to be a couple?

As per my understanding to get children a man and woman are required and they need not be couple. If so, then why both who are responsible in getting a child onto this world are tied together with a knot called marriage?

For this I got a point like if a baby is born due to these two people then there should be a person to take care of this baby. In that case the point arises who should be made responsible for the security of that child, for this there is no proper reason to make a single person accountable when the product is combination of the two personsJ. So in order to avoid unnecessary questions and keep digging into the issue they made both of them responsible for the child care. Here I have a question like, does this means that same persons can have relations with different persons and can take care of the respective children?

If a person has relations with many persons there is always a chance that we will give more importance to one among those people. Hence, there will be huge chances to give more importance to a child from the best liked person than the child from other person. In this context, one can prioritize the persons with whom he has relations based on their qualities but how can the same person prioritize their children who will have same qualities in that age?

Hence in order to avoid the mistreatment to the innocent children they would have brought the concept that a person can have any number of children but with same person. In order to standardize this concept, they named it as marriage and given the validity period as lifelong.   

I hope I got some clarity about couple, let me go back on to the point that why the couple go mad to become parents?

To be more clear on the above question, do they really go mad to have children or is this happening by chance or they wanted to happen that as part of the generic procedure?

I think just like hunger, thirsty, sex is also a natural thing which cannot be avoided. So it’s natural that both persons enjoy having sex and in that process there is always a chance to have children. In most of the cases it happens by chance in their sexual happiness. But if they want to avoid having children they need to avoid sex on or before her period’s time. That is fine but how this is being taken by different people?

In general most of the people who got married will plan to have children some or the other time and will have children in that process. Then from where this point that parents goes mad for children comes into picture?

If everything goes as usual we may not get a chance to understand the value of what we are holding? In order to know the value of something which we are missing, I hope first we should have that and have enjoyed that or should be completely aware about that. In this case how come a person who is not having children will be so mad about them?

Actually, to know the value of children they do not need to have children in specific as they were part of the same place where a couple will be considered as successful only after they have children. Of course, there are people even after living in the same society (where people fear that their blood line will be no longer exist and all their properties will be no more used when they are not having children) will not feel bad for not having children or they intentionally avoid children, these people are exceptional cases who will be in negligible number. So we can conclude that by default they know the value of children and hence become mad for them when they are not able to have them. What could be the general factors that added value to children?

As the generation’s passes after certain period, a group of people who found that they are genetically related started giving (family) names to their groups. They would have not stopped their but continued clubbing the groups that are some or the other way related as per their knowledge and started giving (community) names to the related groups. In this process almost all people will be identified within the group or community hence it makes them abides to the norms laid by that group or community.

Some of the points keeping the view of the group:

Ø  People fear that their blood line will not be there if they don't have children. I don't know why they are bothering about the generations which he/she is not going to see.

Ø  People feel that there won’t be any person who will take care as much as their children. In the state where they don't know how their child is going to behave in future and even after seeing many poor parents being under treated by their grown up children, most of the couples wants to have children.

Ø  People will feel that there will be no one who can enjoy their properties or will feel that for whom they have to be so organized and work hard when there is no child.

Ø  People say that a person will become more stable or organized and start feeling more responsibilities when he get married and that too when they had children.

Ø  A married person will lose respect within his community when they are not able to have children.

Ø  A life looks complete when a person gets married and has children. In specific woman will feel that she is complete when her organ is used successfully for giving birth. Any person will not feel disabled when all her organs are used successfully same is the case with womb.

Ø  Caring children, exchanging love with children, teaching and also learning from them. Actually all these and many more emotions that make life more meaningful can be attained by having children.

As everyone is born in a place surrounded with the people who are enjoying all and even more than those emotions with their children, everyone will acknowledge all these emotions and use to feel very bad & become mad for them (children) when they are not able to own these emotions. If they are not able to have children, there madness makes them to go for adoption or follow the surrogacy process to have a child.

Actually I don't know whether GOD expected the humans to make their race continued or not, but currently almost every couple expects to become parents…

Note: The understanding which i have mentioned above is according to the maturity levels I have at this age and I dont have any intention to hurt any person feelings. 

I am still young , so I may take a diffrent stand in the future about the things which shared with you today as the life is always a good teacher, it will educate me more and make my views much broader to see and understand. So, if you have comments to share please do, I am sincere listener always :)

I am always thankful to my guru RGV sir as he and his book "Na Istam" is my inspiration to analyze anything for an example above "Children Made Couple"

Pre-Release Interpretation on Mallelateeramlo Siremallepuvvu

Mallelateeramlo Siremallepuvvu is one of the few movies for which I have been waiting from the day of its audio release. For the first time when I saw the trailer and heard the songs during its audio function, I felt it is one of such movies which are made just for awards and was just happy for its content and quality.  Later, when I started hearing to songs I realized this movie has a life in it. All songs and themes are exceptional. After a very long time, these songs made me to travel with the characters in the songs. Music is so clear to understand the lyrics easily and the tunes of the songs amplified the lyrics meaning.

May be due to continuous listening to songs or with love in the concept, I just want to draw some assumptions on the story line before I watch it in theaters.

Story…

The story is about a girl who tries to get clarity about marriage life. It has 3 other characters that play the required role to create the scope or give information, to confuse and also to clarify her understandings about marriage.

Characters…

Father: Who believes in arranged marriages that are done based on horoscope matching.  He believes that this type of marriage will be successful as the couple will have certain features that make them understand each other very easily. Girl believes in her father and implement whatever he suggests her.

Friend: The guy with whom she feels convenience to share the views and get clarify.

Husband: The guy with whom she tries to implement her views and get confused.

Base Point….

It is better to open up the opinion rather than simply struggling within her. Life is common to both man and woman. There is no point in stopping one’s life for the sake of the other and that too when she is not able to find herself in his life.

Story#1…

A girl who is in confused state will come across a guy who will be a writer. As girl who like singing, will get closer to him. She likes to travel with him and get enlighten with his company. She feels his company has made her to restart a new life and she also crosscheck herself to find nothing wrong in travelling with him. In that journey she will be recalling the situations that she felt confused with her husband. In certain stage when she was found very dull, that guy will console her. Later, girl reveals her marriage status and says she wants to leave. As a guy who loves giving freedom to take her own decision, he allows her to go away. After entering into her house, interestingly she will found what she has been missing all these years and she will go to her husband and convey her message of quitting the relation. When she goes back to that writer, she will be in faring state thinking about his acceptance. Interestingly, by giving an example of Ramayana he accepts her.

Story#2…

This will be the same plot as above with minor changes. The writer and this girl will come across by a situation and comes to know about each other. On knowing their tastes, they become closer to each other. On the other side, she will also be sharing the information on how her father is searching a guy for her. As friends they both exchange some words on marriage system in which she use to feel that both their views are same. Though she won’t express her wish of travelling with this writer throughout the life, he will understand her feelings. As a girl who is very pure at the heart, she believes in her father and gets married to a guy.  As any girl, she will try to find or create space for her in her husband path. The more she tried to pitch in him the more she feels isolated. The rest of the story will be how she is coming out of that marriage and able to find the space back in her writer friend’s life. Here she expresses happiness for his acceptance and enjoys his company but will convey sorry for him for not able to make a life with him and leaves that place with a lot of clarity to start a new life…

Story#3…

Let’s start this story with a marriage and the understandings between newly married couple. As the days pass, she might get more confused and a reach a stage to say good bye to her husband. As she go back to her house, she will come across the guy whom she used to have good relation earlier. When she is discovering herself in that return back company, there comes her husband with a wish to mingle with her back. Unable to make up a decision between two, she says thanks to both of them for being reason in gaining clarity on relations.  She says “having a confidence that you people will be there when required I am going to take up new path”… There she starts up a new life with full of clarity….

Director Ram Raju garu said that sir.RGV has told him that “Direct any genre film but make sure that it should be unique”, hence I believe that the story of this movie will be for sure different from the lines I have written above J

I would like to thank Mallelateeram lo SireMalle Puvvu (మల్లెలతీరంలో సిరిమల్లె పువ్వు) team for bringing such a poetic film to us. I wish this film will be a huge hit and show a new style of narration to the cinema writers….

I am always thankful to my guru RGV sir as he and his book "Na Istam" is my inspiration to analyze anything for an example above "Pre-Release Interpretation on Mallelateeramlo Siremallepuvvu"

Fortunate to have a Long Relation!!

                         Its Just Fortunate to have a Long Relation!!

Matching of ideas, views are the strong reason for the successful life of a couple?  Yes, of course that is very much important as it will help to make fast conclusion on any issue. As everyone knows, dragging an issue with different views will give more scope for many more views, so people with close views and ideas will be more successful as they are able to avoid unnecessary debate.

The love marriages (that will happen only after getting the feeling that they know each other very well) have less success rate than the arranged marriages (that will be done on a belief that they will become close together). In order to deal a situation, love marriage couple will deal it easily as they have some idea about each other due to their prior experience.  In case of arrange marriage couple, no one has earlier experience on how the other will react to this situation. Hence, a situation can create a scope for arranged couple to understand each other whereas for love birds to confirm about each other.  I might be silly or more partial towards arrange marriage couple but I would like to make a conclusion that after a marriage most of the situations can be tests for love marriage people whereas the same can be an opportunity to understand each other for arrange marriage couple.

To be frank enough even in the case of lovers, when they met for the first time no one will be aware of the other and only after certain journey they will come to know each other. In that process of knowing each other definitely they will show the patience and take the time to get to a conclusion on each other. I hope the same or even more patience and enthusiasm will be shown by the arranged marriage couple. In case of lovers there won’t be any official binding; hence they may not show that much patience in getting complete understanding of the other person. Whereas in case of married couple they will show more patience and enthusiasm than the normal as they have to live together forever.  I believe that either it is in the case of love birds or it is in the case of married couple, one thing is very clear that no one can find a person with complete matching. Hence, in either case for sure there is a self-boosting word called compromise that energizes their relation.

v  No person can be understood in the first situation itself and all situations will not come at a time, hence it requires a lot of patience to understand a person.

v  Every situation will give new information clearing off our earlier clarity; hence we should be very enthusiastic to gather as much information as possible.

v  As mood of a person need not be same for the same situation in different timelines, we cannot expect her response to be the same which we assumed with our previous experience.  I believe life is full of surprises. However we predict the situation and prepare & present ourselves accordingly we can never foretell the result. Whatever the result, once it is out we don't have other choice than to accept which indirectly say to compromise.

When patience, enthusiasm and compromise are the default things for long live of any relation, where does this word break-up coming to picture. Obviously, it will be in the case where any of the three things break downJ. Anything unexpected will happen either due to the unexpected attitude of the respective person or by fate.

Either it is a love or it is arranged marriage both will start with lot of ideas, assumptions, and hope for successful life. As the major change after marriage is directly visible in girl’s life in the form of her location change, let me take that as a reason for my support to a girl in this break-up case. Of course, there are many other reasons that can justify either of them but still even today, in any break up the major loss is shown on woman side. Though in 1970’s itself K Balachandar garu showed different examples to empower woman, even now we are feeling surprised on seeing woman who is breaking down silence to fly away from her husband torture.  Why we still feel that if a girl takes up a decision to break up her relation, it might affect her life but never give point saying that it might ruins the guy life. In what way her decision to break-up the relation may affect her when it does not affect him:

v  Does she will be isolated from the society but if she don’t break-up she feels she is isolated from herself.

v  Does she can’t find a safe place but in every moment with him, he is placing her in dangerous place.

v  Do people won’t give respect to her words but if she is there she can’t even express her words.

v  Tough to control her emotion in that young age but it’s better to control than to kill those emotions.

v  People may say she killed the relations but it is better than killing herself.

v  People say she is over fast, but only breaks in her made her to take a turn before they got crushed.

Whatever be the people and dharma talks, the law created by human says that there is always an option to free the girl from the suffering traditions and bring her individuality back.

I still believe just because of this land and it’s holiness due to certain people who have lived and are still living, we are fortunate to see that people bonded with relations still respect each other. Of course beyond anything fate can play over all, by which still some people face the biggest hurdles due to relations. I fear if proper attention is not given to these cases, there are chances for the deviation to the entire Indian relational system.   

I would like to thank Mallelateeram lo SireMalle Puvvu (మల్లెలతీరంలో సిరిమల్లె పువ్వు) team which has inspired me to write the above points. After seeing the trailers and listening to the songs which has been haunting me from then, I thought the story is about human relation and started to write the above points…

I am always thankful to my guru RGV sir as he and his book "Na Istam" is my inspiration to analyze anything for an example above "Fortunate to have a Long Relation."

Cinema Industry an uncertain place for Actress!!

                                          Cinema Industry an uncertain place for Actress!!                                                   

Cinema is part of life for most of the Indians. It has been entertaining us from 100 years and will do that forever. Though Cinema is a business, it has more than give and take. It gives us relaxation, it haunts us with its content, its takes us to a world which we like to be part of, it gives us a kick that lasts longer than that of cigarette, alcohol and of course the healthy kick.

To give that taste which we feel to have it again and again, many people will be doing loads of work for day and nights sacrificing many things.  Yes, of course they too have return backs for their hard work. We considered them as a family member and sometimes even more than that. We pray, we fight for them. We made them millionaires, billionaires, politicians and what else we even made them GODs.

Super, but is this true with every person involved in the movie making. Definitely not, though we like all the people who played their role for providing us good entertainment, most of the times our love is more on hero, some cases on directors, music directors as well. It was long back where we use to have separate fan following for lady actors as well and it lasted from Savithri garu time to Soundarya garu time. Of course, even now there are few actors like Lakshmi Manchu (AOD, UKUP, and GG), Anuska (Arundati) who got following with their different roles and there are some other actors who had good recognition as they are able to come in continuous films, of course same roles without big variations. I don't know and may be don't want to talk on why they are not getting recognition but want to know how come we are able to see so many new faces and were all these people having good career in film industry?

In these 100 years of Indian Cinema we cannot assume any movie without a female actor, which shows her importance as equal as male actor. Of course for these years, we have seen ups and downs in some male actors but we have seen the worst situations of many heroines. The reason could be different but the base behind every actress pain is betrayal. Even after seeing so many live examples and knowing the importance of actress in current day films, why so many people are getting attracted? I hope we cannot generalize the reason as its pure personal interest of the respective individual and they can have million reasons which need not be convincible to others.  However, their ideology may not be concluded, I just want to get some understanding as Jiah suicide has made emotional locker sir.RGV very emotional. 

Who are attracted towards film industry?

Almost every Indian love movies and most percentage of them by watching so many films will feel to be part of that industry. However very few of them express their interest outside and very few in that will make a try to work on their dream and very very few in that will get a chance and only countable members in that will be withstanding in the industry.  That very few people who are trying for a chance are from different backgrounds.

A girl who is exposed only to small place like a village or a small town might fall easily for the words of a people around her or she might have a feeling like she looks like a particular actress. Obviously at the end, her dream of placing herself in the roles of her dream actress drags her into this magical world.

Some actress says that they have not thought much of becoming actress but luckily it happened when they sent their photos for auditions and so their journey started J whatever be the reason for her entry to the industry, the important thing is whether the same luck helped her to withstand within the industry or make herself a fool?

There are situations where a girl who may not have any plan/interest to get into industry but will be made to enter due to some of the relations in the industry. Interesting to wait and see is to how many films that person will be helpful to her and to what extent her madness for films grows by the time she has to wait for a next film chance?

In certain cases, a girl who is very fame in certain fields like Ads, modeling, serials, and shows will be attracted towards movies by certain people who feel that her appearance may be helpful to their film. Even after having certain clarity on their ability to withstand within cinema world, they will enter into this dramatic world. The main problem in this case could be that it would be tough for them to come back to their own fields when they feel it is tough to withstand in cinema world. Of course, the person who has launched her in the films might be busy with some other projects or might feel that her appeal may not fetch special attraction anymore.

There are certain scenarios where a girl who is very much interested in films will walk around the offices for a chance. Who knows whether she will get a break after breaking her heart or breaking her walls? Of course she may get a chance at earlier level itself without much struggle, the interesting thing and the most disturbing thing for her could be waiting while struggling to get the next offer.

What could be the major changes when she enters the industry?

The first and foremost thing that will happen is her personal interaction with the people (apart from movie industry) with whom she has been interacting all these years from her childhood will be narrowed down.

When she got a break, some new faces try to enter into her space, narrowing down the people who might have helped her during her tough times in her initial career. This may look fair enough with an assumption that new faces could give new chances when the old ones could be there anyhow with her. But in case of relations the reality is different from assumption as everyone in this world needs to move on prioritizing the tasks and people that come across.

Who all could be the new faces? Directors, Producers, actors, celebrities and celebrity relatives who don't have any movie related work but just do the time pass in the industry. Actually Director, producer or an actor with whom she got interaction can give a chance to her and make her busy. Of course, there are very good examples, where an actress got continuous offers starting from the first film. If by chance, any of these people don't find apt role for this girl on their ongoing projects, though definitely will have an idea to give her a role but still ask her to wait for the proper time. To be frank enough, whatever they said will be correct as they will have their own calculations on casting and it is purely that girls fate for not having roles that apt her.

During her wait, she will try to check all the links she got during her success period and of course that time pass celebrity will always be there to have a date with her. To my understanding, either if has already dated with her or if he has not yet dated with her and if she is still having fame in public, he will try to lend his supporting hand through a date with her. Of course, sometimes his reference can bring a new chance to her. But I think most of the times she might be used than be guided.

I cannot comment people who are using her but I should like to say to the girl, it is very obvious in any industry that there will be certain people who always try to make use of others and coming to glamour world that scope will be more as the reachability is high.

Again, I cannot comment on the girl considering her situation. It is very obvious to any person who reached certain heights in any career will try to maintain that stage or try to grow to the newer heights. Same will be the case with this girl with whom the fate is playing. Though her first film brought a good name, she is not able to find the apt role for next film and the people who can be helpful to her are busy with their own projects so there is no option other than to wait patiently and check all the possible links.

When the time pass on, the fame she had will slowly fade off and the new faces will try to replace her either it is in career or with the case of her boyfriend with whom she is dating. I don't know whether it is her mistake for not identifying the nature of the people whom she is interacting but still I may say it is the situation that give a chance to act cleverly or become a puppet in other hands.

I hope the command on a situation will only come with an experience and to girl who got fame with less effort and that too at small age, the command which she can have on any situation will be very weak.

Moreover in that small age when she is about to change her life from education stage to the career stage if she immediately pitches into a career without much effort she will have no scope to think any career other than the one which she pitched in. The main problem with this career is it is transparent to outside people and opaque within the industry people. No one can say an immediate reason why one person is rejected or offered but once he/she hits the screen they become public property making them tough to choose different career apart from this.

So unable to understand the reason for her rejections, unable to understand the attitude of the people around her, unable to decide whether to take up new career or still wait for an offer, unable to tolerate these many pressures at a time for a long period and that too at such a small age, there are huge chances to quit the fight and take send off from this beautiful yet mystery world.

I feel that GOD could have blessed her with more luck by which a person from somewhere could have understand her dangerous situation and pitched into her space to give the strength by which she would have been different than she is now. I don't know who can be that person as everyone that she is meeting might be busy or could have certain scheduled works or unexpected issues that can preoccupy their minds making them give less space to her views.

What could be the reason for this uncertainty in actress career?

There could be n number of reasons and can be nothing is the reason for the situation but still we cannot stop making speculations from the situation.

I hope most of people who are taking cinema as their career are learning less about cinema before they are entering. The reason for this is obvious that they will be pursuing some degree which is irrelevant to cinema atmosphere and again try to get degree in cinema before they complete learning alphabets in it. We have very few successful people like sir.RGV who proved that to make a cinema imagination is sufficient and that imagination has no measurements.

Even if a girl gets a break with a good hit, we cannot assume that she will get next film. Cinema industry is not streamlined like that of other industries, especially in case of actresses. Their experience in acting is not making big change to their carrier as there is no scope for their acting skills. Most of the current day movie stories do not have anything for heroines apart from glamour show.   Hence rather than experience in acting freshness in their glamor is playing key role narrowing down the careers of actress.

I have an experience with Madhura Sreedhar garu where he guided the people with proper inputs that has enlighten their blind dreams. I hope there could be many such directors who are currently guiding new comers and can do that in future as well such that we can avoid some miserable situations.

In earlier days, an actor or technician used to be signed by the production house for a period of movies that has created a safe career for the respective people. Now the case is different and everyone knows that every small financier is becoming producer and all big producers have restricted their making for limited people.  In few cases I know, I hope Madhura Sreedhar garu made his last two movies under same banner proving that even now it is possible if there is sincerity and clarity between Producer and Director.

After reading the news from sir.RGV “http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-06-07/news-interviews/39789218_1_jiah-khan-nishabd-guest-appearance”, I cried not for Jiah but for sir.RGV fearing and shivering for his boldness in expressing the truth. I believe that much of openness is not possible for normal human beings but one thing I strongly believe is that soon we will be seeing a positive change in the way new comers are welcomed and encouraged in the industry.

As sir.RGV said “I so wish I could have explained to you that there was nothing wrong with you except for bad time and destiny, which more or less controls all of us”, we as followers of him will try to use the same statement to any person including myself when found in depression. But, I can strongly say he is the one and only one person who makes his assistants as directors giving them life (of course he won’t accept that) by producing their film. With small information I had about sir.RGV, I could say (of course repeat his words) that there is nothing wrong with HIM except for bad time and destiny, which more or less controls all of us and in Jiah case it controlled HIM by not allowing to make point of her struggle during her struggle time.

I am always thankful to my guru RGV sir as he and his book "Na Istam" is my inspiration to analyze anything for an example above "Cinema Industry an uncertain place for Actress!! "